Why Does Love Hurt So Much Yet And Why Does Everyone Come Running Back To It?

From Philosophy Forum:

Why does love hurt so much yet and why does everyone come running back to it? Why does love hurt? What is that deep throbbing feeling that you feel in your chest? It's not a large painful feeling yet why does it hurt the most? Why is love so addicting? Why can't I erase this feeling inside my chest? I'm putting this in the philosophy section because I kind of want in depth, thoughtful answers.. :P Thanks!

Answer: Why does love hurt? Love hurts because love is confusing. Love can makes us feel so happy and on top of the world. But then make you feel so small and sad. If you truly care about someone. If you would give your life to save them or give the clothes off your back to keep them warm then love will definitely hurt. What if that person you love so much...that one you care so deeply about...that one you would give your life for... did something horrendous and unforgivable? It would hurt, wouldn't it? It would hurt to see your loved one in pain or to have your love one cause you pain. What is that deep throbbing feeling that you feel in your chest? That deep throbbing feeling is your heart telling you that you really love this person. You know that when you look in their eyes that they are the one you want to be with for the rest of your life, and your heart just jump starts and picks up pace. Why is love so addicting? Love is addicting because it makes us feel wonderful. Love makes you feel like you don't need anything else. Just love. Everyone does things that makes them feel good. So of course love is addicting. They want that feeling. That feeling of pure bliss that only love can bring you. Why can't I erase this feeling inside my chest? It permanently burns its place on your heart. You can't erase something like love. A feeling so strong. It isn't something that goes away. Why do people keep running back to it? You never run away from the one you love. You just can't. There is no power in the world that can keep you from them. You keep coming back and coming back because you would do anything and everything for that person.

Explain What Love Is From Your Point Of View?

From Religion & Spirituality Forum:

Explain what love is from your point of view? Explain what love is in your personal opinion? And why do people fall out of love.. Can love be sustained? Why do people cheat on each other if they're in "love" why do some feel that you can fall "inlove" with 2 people at the same time. &why does love hurt so much but feels amazing at other times? What creates these feelings?

Answer: Love is an emotion caused by chemical reactions, just like happiness and sadness. If one can fall in and out of happiness or sadness, so can they with love.

Explain What Love Is From Your Point Of View?

From Singles & Dating Forum:

Explain what love is from your point of view? Explain what love is in your personal opinion? And why do people fall out of love.. Can love be sustained? Why do people cheat on each other if they're in "love" why do some feel that you can fall "inlove" with 2 people at the same time. &why does love hurt so much but feels amazing at other times? What creates these feelings?

Answer: I've only been in love with someone once and it lasted about 2 and a half years. It's hard to explain what it is and how it feels. At first its butterflies and all smiles. At first you chase after them and never get tired of them. It's admiring every little thing. It's noticing everything nobody else can. It's staying up and talking for hours and experiencing new things and learning about them . It's being able to have someone that's always there. It's being able to tell secrets and knowing, really knowing, that they won't tell. It's being able to call someone at any time and having someone there for you. It's fighting over stupid things but knowing it'll be okay at the end of the day. It's seeing them on their worst days and still thinking they look great. It's not always easy though. You'll fight and scream and cry but you'll be OK. Because if you didn't make it thought those silly fights it wouldn't be love. It's hard to explain how you fall out of love too..and a lot of people say you can't. Many people say if you "fall out of love" it was really never love at all. I don't believe that at all. How can you be with someone for so long and not love them? I believe you'll always care for that person that you loved but you're just not IN love with them anymore. We fall out of love because we stop trying. We think they'll always be there and then one, or both of us stop trying. You slowly start to fade away from each other. You get a text or call from them and its nothing exciting. It's just normal, every day stuff. We have to keep fighting for them. We have to keep them as happy as we once did.

Ladies Under 30, Have You Ever Seen A 50 Yr Old Man That You Thought Was Hot And Pursued Him?

From Other - Family & Relationships Forum:

Ladies under 30, have you ever seen a 50 yr old man that you thought was hot and pursued him? I have a confession...that's exactly what I did and I pursued him. We had sex, he is married and I am in love and I cannot do nothing about it. Why does this have to hurt. Why does love hurt. I don't even see that he is 26 years older than I, I am in love. Have any of you fell for a much older man and was hurt like myself because he did not want to leave his wife?

Answer: Let me congratulate you on finding a man that you are attracted to and achieving the goal of having him sexually. Now let me warn you that this goal is really counter productive of your objective of finding a partner for yourself. Think about it. How are you going to ever trust him after you were able to get him to cheat on his other wife. Why would you want to enter into a relationship that starts out with going through an emotional hurricane of guilt and accusations while he is divorcing the other woman? My advise would be to enjoy the company of this man in your life, preferably without having any more sex with him. Then go out and find another man that isn't already busy sharing and building a life with another woman so that he is available and open to getting busy building a life with you. The age difference is the least of your considerations or problems with this relationship. I applaud you again though for being open for a mature person being able to share your life.

Any Logical Explanation Why Love Hurts Sometimes?

From Psychology Forum:

Any logical explanation why love hurts sometimes? I was wondering, since almost every feeling/habit/reaction to things that happen to us can be traced back and explained by evolution, and since evolution made us develop many things that would allow us to survive back then.... So, I get the fact that love and sex etc. was essentially "made" to make us procreate, which basically means survive. So why does love hurt so much when the person we love leaves us or doesn't love us back? Shouldn't we be able to move on right away to the next partner without tying ourselves too much to the past?

Answer: God, you're so right.... and the issue in some ways is that once we dominated the food chain on our planet at least, we stopped evolving physically and lost many animal tendencies, I mean you are right, we are still driven by animistic instincts, but they have been buried further down and modified by society and culture. My theory is that the pain of love is still instinctual; Man are pack animals, and being with our same species makes us feel safe and stable, but somewhere along the line this developed into a need to be accepted and cherished... it is almost a new sort of instinct. It hurts because it feels like failure, giving everything you have to someone and it still not being enough.... doing everything in your power to appear as attractive as society says you should be, and yet the other person just does not love you or accept you the same way. People are animals, regardless of what some others say, we are still creatures like everything else. And as far as depression is concerned when you are abandoned and heartbroken, you see it in the wild all the time... I watched a documentary on lions not too long ago, and a stronger lion came in and took over the pride. He ate the babies that were not his and kicked out the other males that were not strong enough, and even though survival is the first thing on a lions mind, two of the males that got kicked out just gave up and stopped eating and eventually let themselves starve to death... so I guess everything can get heartbroken, it is why dogs cry when their owner leaves. Any living creature with a heart can get heartbroken and sometimes it is impossible to just "move on" as you said, sometimes memories are too overpowering and cannot be forgotten, or we don't let ourselves forget, I guess sometimes it is better to hurt forever than forget what was, sometimes... we just do what the lions did and stop hunting.

What Is Love? Define Love. Do You Believe In Love? Does Love Exist?

From Singles & Dating Forum:

What is love? Define love. Do you believe in love? Does love exist? I do not believe there is anything like fallen in love. The only true love is from God. Why does love hurt so bad?

Answer: I think when it hurts its not real love...its something else mixed with it (infatuation, lust, etc). Real love is selfless and easy. Maybe as human beings we cannot achieve true love as it is something only God can give. But we keep on trying until we come close. But I believe that you cannot feel deep love without pain. How would you know the difference if you don't see both sides?

Why Does Love Hurt When Someone Leaves?

From Marriage & Divorce Forum:

Why does love hurt when someone leaves? I understand when I burn myself or hit my thumb with a hammer, that's natures way of saying "danger, dint do that again". If love is this wonderful, healing and satisfying emotion then why does it hurt so much when someone leaves? Is like a drug, we go through withdrawals? Is it natures way of saying "dont love again, its damaging"?

Answer: That's not it at all. It hurts when love leaves because we are made to love. Love creates a bond and when that bond is broken, there is something missing and our emotions respond to the separation with fear that it won't feel fulfilled again. The good news is when we find love again and the person with a healthy outlook knows that they will find love again, bliss will again be restored. The pain is NOT nature's way of saying "don't love again." The pain is in response to the emptiness that the separation brings. Men usually get through it quicker than women because we find another woman as soon as possible while women tend to wait until the longing subsides...sometimes for weeks, months or years.

Is This Totally Normal Or Is It Wierd?

From Singles & Dating Forum:

Is this totally normal or is it wierd? I totally fell in love with one of my best friends. I moved recently and now I never see him and I don't know if I ever will again. I feel like I can't breath without him and I miss him so much. Is that normal or am I an obsessed wierdo? Why does love hurt so bad?!?!?

Answer: Totally normal, I get butterflies when someone mentions my crush, and can't say his name without studdering

Why Does Love Hurt SO Bad I Decided To Get Married Even Though I Knew I Should'Nt And Now I'm Hurting Worser?

From Marriage & Divorce Forum:

Why does love hurt SO bad I decided to get married even though I knew I should'nt and now I'm hurting worser? Why do we do our will but not follow the will of God???

Answer: You only have yourself to blame. Love doesn't hurt...if it hurts, it isn't love.

Why Does Love Hurt So Bad In A Relationship ?

From Singles & Dating Forum:

Why Does Love Hurt so bad in a relationship ? I love this dude but he does not love me anymore he moved on and he is my ex.

Answer: because your feelings are taken over your inter emotion of you

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